Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Kauai Hawaii Tsunami Breakneckie Aaiiee!

Despite the ominous title, we had a fantastic time on our vacation in Kauai this month, so much so, that we are dreaming about buying a gorgeous B&B that we saw up the street from where we were staying. I fear it may be only a dream, though. We just learned that Alex has signed a contract with Temple Beth Sholom of Cherry Hill, and this part of the family will be moving closer to us this summer. I just celebrated another birthday during a fantastic dinner at Red Salt in Poipu, and I have serious doubts about whether Saul and I have the stamina left at our age to get started on a new life and business together. If only this had come up 10 years ago.

Our vacation adventure began very early in the morning on Thursday, March 3. Our initial flight to Phoenix on U.S. Air was out of Newark, NJ, and was due to leave at 6:30 a.m. Over and above the call of duty, our cousin, Anne, who lives about 15 minutes from the airport, volunteered to drive us there at 4:30 a.m. so that we could leave our car at her house for the ten days we would be gone. We were well-prepared and awoke at 3:00 a.m. to dress and load our two carry-ons and small suitcase into our car. We figured at that hour we would have clear sailing over the New Jersey Turnpike to Westfield. Were we wrong! Forty miles out from Anne’s house we came to a standstill in a divided one-lane section of the turnpike that was under construction behind a line of tractor trailers as far as the eye could see. Absolutely nothing was moving on our side of the entire turnpike. We just about had apoplexy thinking about losing our first class seats, to which we had been able to upgrade with air miles at the last minute, and our connecting flight in Phoenix, where we were due to meet up with Ari who was meeting us there for the flight to Lihue. We also were due to honor 5:00 p.m. dinner reservations at The Beach House with Ken and Randi, Randi’s cousin Scott, and her sister Lori along with her husband, Jules. Randi’s family was due to leave a few hours after we arrived. We called Anne to advise her of our situation and she was standing at the ready for whatever we needed to get to the airport by 6:30 a.m. After about 20 minutes at a standstill, we saw a triangle formation of police cars with flashers leading a wall of traffic down the other side of the turnpike. Then, gradually, our lane began to move. Desperately, illegally driving down the narrow shoulder for about a half mile, we were able to bypass a slow-moving line of semis that were just beginning to power up. Once we got past them, the traffic began moving incredibly quickly. We only lost about a half hour. Our flights were relatively on time; we made our connections meeting Ari as planned; our plane did not require de-icing; and two hours of turbulence over the ocean on the final leg of the trip only required one Ativan on my part. The movie was The King’s Speech, a good distraction from the turbulence. We picked up our car, drove to the condo, dropped our bags, and we all headed off for our reservations at The Beach House where we watched the sunset over Lawai Beach drinking exotic libations and eating exquisitely-prepared local fish. It always boggles my mind that all this can be done in the space of one 24-hour period. After dinner, the others left as scheduled for their flights, which were also turbulent, but thankfully, all arrived back home safe and relatively sound.

On day 1, we all slept late. Ken and Randi had begun to set the table for breakfast, but I convinced everyone that we should go out because I was planning later to shop for and prepare Shabbat dinner that evening. On an impulse, we decided to have breakfast at Yum Cha overlooking the golf course at the Grand Hyatt Resort. We were too late for breakfast, but convinced the staff to make us omelets as the lunch crowd began to filter in. Afterward, we headed to Costco to hunt down the makings of a memorable dinner. Saul bought a few more Hawaiian-made aloha shirts. Ari purchased a snorkel, which was not sealed in its plastic bubble particularly well, and on opening, smelled suspiciously like pot. Our two “challot” were yummy whole-grain artisan breads warm from the oven there. Stopping in Old Koloa Town on our way back, I picked up candles at the Island Soap Shop and an inexpensive, but gorgeous, bouquet of local flowers from the small Sueoka Market there. Randi and I prepared a sumptuous dinner, and the men, particularly Ari, cleaned up and loaded the dishwasher afterward. Sleeping in Kauai is a joy with subtle trade winds spurred on by lazy ceiling fans wafting through the bamboo-slatted window shades. The restful sound of palm tree fronds brushing each other outside in the breeze is as relaxing as listening to a gentle rain.

After such a good night’s sleep, we were up early in the morning on day 2, my birthday, to take a walk along the greenbelt to turtle beach and watch large sea turtles, some with a little one in tow, bobbing through the lapping waves and sticking their heads up in the rocky protected little cove. Returning, we set out to breakfast at the Kalaheo Café where we know there is a farmer lady who, once a week, puts out her freshly-picked veggies for sale. I purchased fresh basil, golden beets, and green and yellow string beans from her. We drove up into the hills to return a scarf that Millard’s daughter, Debbie, had left at the condo. Her windswept aerie overlooks breath-taking vistas of the valley below. How Ken and Randi came to know Millard is a legendary and hilarious family story that Ken wrote and actually had published in a local newspaper a few years back. I will try to get the archive and publish it here one day soon. Debbie wasn’t home and Randi left the scarf by the door. We spent the rest of the afternoon basking in the sun and swimming with the colorful and abundant tropical fish at Poipu Beach. I took a brief nap when we returned and then dressed for my birthday dinner at Red Salt. Ari, Randi and I shared a bottle of wine while Ken and Saul drank Arnold Palmers. The food can only be described as exquisite, not only meticulously presented, but succulent as well. My rather whimsical dessert was a root beer float and chocolate, chocolate chip cookie. The ice cream was house-made root beer flavor, presented with the locally-brewed and naturally-flavored vanilla cream soda, a switch on the usual root beer float. After dinner, we strolled around the lovely grounds of the hotel star-gazing by ocean side at the plethora of heavenly bodies accentuated by thousands of miles of light-less ocean.

On day 3, the trouble began. We arrived at 10 a.m. in time for our reservations for a wonderful buffet brunch at 22° North, which last year was Gaylord’s. Although everything but the name seemed the same, we were told that the new identity is meant to reflect that most of the ingredients used in the restaurant are locally-sourced from their own large plantation and farm. Stuffed from overindulging in brunch, Ken and Randi headed off to the condo while Saul soaked up the atmosphere in a comfy chair and Ari and I explored the small specialized gift shops housed in rooms on various floors of the old plantation. Ari purchased unique necklaces for the girls. The gift box contained an oyster, sealed in a plastic bubble and a silver necklace with a heart-shaped pendant in which you are supposed to insert the hidden pearl from inside the oyster. It seemed like a good idea at the time, very unique, interactive, feminine, and from the island of Kauai itself; in practice, as Jessica said sarcastically, “thanks for the new pets!” The girls were fascinated with their gift, but neither wanted to open the oyster, not to mention the fact that we were bringing oysters to a kosher home… on Shabbat!? In some other shopping at nearby Costco, Walmart, and Koloa Town we purchased sunglasses, flip flops, tea mugs, and a neat beach chair for Ari. When we returned to the condo, Ken and Randi were headed down to Brennecke Beach where Saul lost his wedding band last year. We put on suits and joined them there. The water was quite rough, perfect for the local children who were having a blast on their boogie boards on this beautiful Sunday afternoon. Saul and I waded in to cool off as the sun had become quite hot. We were standing in water just above my knees when a wave broke just over my head. I suggested to Saul that we get out as the water was quite unpredictable and that he has been a bit unsteadier since his stroke four years ago. As we began to wade out, Ari decided to come in and Saul joined him. Together, they were body surfing in deeper water when a rogue wave caught Saul, flipped him over, and bashed his head and right shoulder against the rocky bottom. He returned shakily to the beach chair, his forehead and cheek scraped and a bit bloody, and his neck and shoulder aching. We had the wonderful leftovers from Friday night’s dinner and Saul went to bed hoping that a hastily-purchased dose of Aleve would quell the pain by the next morning. He spent an awful night.

Day 4 for Saul and me was spent almost entirely in the Harry and Jeannette Weinberg Emergency Wing of the Wilcox Hospital in Kauai. We were shocked at the name because we knew of the philanthropy of the Weinberg family and knew some of their descendants in Baltimore. We just never realized how much their philanthropy extended to all of Hawaii. After I made us breakfast of mushroom and cheese omelets and taro pancakes with coconut syrup, Ken and Randi spent the day at the beach. I sent Ari away to explore, once he dropped us off at the hospital, telling him that I would call when we were done. After several uncomfortable hours in a neck brace with visits from various well-intentioned and pleasant hospital staffers, Saul saw a doctor, had an MRI and x-ray, and found that he had broken his top right rib. The neck brace was removed, and he was told that nothing is done to immobilize a rib. He was given an impressive choice of pain medication, and chose Tylenol with codeine. While at the emergency wing, he met two other men who had broken bones on Brennecke the same day. One younger man from Minnesota had broken a bone in his neck and did indeed need the neck brace. We met him on the parking lot of Walmart where we had all gone to get our pain pills. The other, much younger, man had broken two fingers on his right hand and his rented boogie board. The doctor we saw in the emergency room told us that the hospital employees call the beach “Breakneckie Beach,” and he said that he had almost killed himself there years earlier when he had first come to Kauai. Needless to say, having lost a wedding band and broken a rib there, we are not intending to return there for a third strike. While waiting the 45 minutes for the prescription to be filled, Ari, after beach-hopping all day, took us all for a ride up into the mountains in Kapa’a. We had dinner at the Barbecue Inn, an unassuming local down-home favorite in Lihue. We had soup, entreés of well-prepared fresh local fish, delicious sides, and a slice of one of their seven flavors of cream pies, all for $13.00.

On day 5, Saul rested. I made a breakfast for us of oatmeal with fresh papaya, and fresh pineapple taro pancakes. Ken is always happy to breakfast on the local tropical Anahola granola every morning. I also made some coconut tapioca. The rest of us took a morning walk down to Poipu beach and back. Then we put on our suits and spent the afternoon lolling on the beach. I got a bit of a sunburn, blotchy, because I had not been careful spraying on my sunscreen on such a windy day. I had been wearing my straw hat to protect my face during our walks, but Saul found a cobweb on it and brushed it away. I was afraid to wear it after that, especially since that evening, a small spider crawled across my cheek and freaked me out. I detest spiders, but they are appreciated on the island for their ability to eliminate mosquitoes and other harmful pests. Saul witnessed some excitement while home. Our neighbors were yelling and banging on their door. Their combination lock had broken and the whole family was locked in their condo until a locksmith arrived and managed to free them about two hours later. He said that, as far as he knew, that had never happened before. Late in the afternoon, when there was shade from palm trees and surrounding buildings, Ari, Saul and I spent some time in the condo’s pool and volcanic stone hot tub. While there, we had an interesting conversation with a family visiting from Alaska… really! We made sandwiches from our leftovers for dinner with whole grain bread, horseradish sauce, lilikoi (passion fruit) mustard, caesar salad, and creamy leftover flan from Costco.

Day 6 was preplanned to be our pilgrimage to Ke’e Beach on the northern part of the island. Saul, Ari and I awoke at 6 a.m. to get an early start. We had breakfast at the Olympic Café in Kapa’a where we spoke to Neri’s mom, Efrat, in Israel on the iPhone via Skype about her plans to come to the U.S. for Neri’s graduation in early June. There is a 12-hour time difference between Hawaii and Israel. There had been an earthquake off the coast of Japan a day or two earlier and we were surprised to find that the waves at the usually-placid, cove-like beach were roiling and wild, creating strong currents. The ocean was beautiful to watch, though, striking alongside the verdant Mount Makana, usually known as Bali Hai from the movie musical, South Pacific. We were surrounded on the sand by cheeky families of brilliantly-plumed feral roosters and chickens loosed on the island by a previous hurricane. They peck at any hint of a crumb and shelter in the exposed gnarly roots of aged trees foresting the edges of the beach. After a time, Ari and I went for a walk up the road looking for a phone signal on high ground between the steep volcanic mountains. We ventured a short distance into the Limahuli Botanical Gardens, but neither of us had brought our wallets along to pay for admittance. After two hours of exploring and taking photographs and videos, including of the mystical cave of Puff the Magic Dragon, we gave up on finding a decent phone signal and returned to the beach. Ken and Randi joined us there. Saul left with Ken and Randi after a few hours to find something to eat in Hanalei before our date with sunset on the elegant terrace of the St. Regis Hotel in Princeville. Ari and I, not hungry, remained behind to savor the beach for just a little bit longer. I began to realize that my two-hour walk with Ari sans hat had done terrible things to my previous day’s mild sunburn. I wished I had thrown a baseball cap into my suitcase beside the straw hat. Ari and I met Ken, Saul and Randi at the Hanalei Café as they were leaving and decided to stay and have a light bite also. We shared halves of two fish sandwiches, one a Hawaiian “lox and bagel” made with a cured local fish that was delicious, but only one thin slice. The real knockout was the fried mahi po’ boy. It was yummy! We rendezvoused at a condo that we had rented for the day in a retro building we had always admired when visiting the Princeville Hotel. We showered, changed, and enjoyed the striking ocean views from the top of the sheer cliff right outside our living room windows. An hour before sunset, Ari and I took the short walk, and Ken, Randi, and Saul drove to the Princeville St. Regis, where ensconced on the terrace with bar snacks and expensive, exotic tropical drinks in hand, we took multiple pictures of ourselves and the flaming sunset behind Bali Hai. Checking out the menu at the St. Regis, which was extremely pricey and not extremely interesting, we decided to slum it by going to Scotty’s Beachside BBQ on our way back south. We loved the warm and friendly atmosphere, local beer, food, and unique donut-like dessert, the puffasada, which we photographed and put up on “Foodspotting,” an app which was unfamiliar to the local restaurant owners, but which should really catch on in such a small place now that they are aware of it. Like the sunset, the day was practically perfect. Around 2:00 a.m. I awoke to the realization that my CPAP had stopped and I was gasping for air. I discovered that we were experiencing a power failure. I discovered that it was just as dark there with my eyes open as closed. Using my bedside iPhone for light, I looked outside to see if the whole neighborhood was dark, or just our condo. The whole neighborhood was dark and I wondered if the whole island was dark. I woke Ken and Randi because he sleeps with a CPAP also, but he was not awakened by the power failure because he also breathes through his mouth. I thought about the earthquake in Japan a few days earlier and wondered if other underwater quakes could have an effect on Hawaii’s power. The outage lasted for two and a half hours. I never learned what caused it, but it was only in our immediate neighborhood.



Day 7, Thursday, was Ari’s birthday. We traveled to the west side of the island and had a gigantic breakfast at Grinds. Just as a note, breakfast in Kauai usually includes big scoops of steamed rice. From there, we drove to Glass Beach where we collected a big bag of sea glass for Ari and for Sami, who remembered it from a few years ago, and asked me to bring her some. Then, we drove to Hanapepe and wandered around the quaint shops and artists’ galleries there. For my honey collection, I bought a gray, cutesy angel-shaped bottle of honey from bees belonging to the grandson of Duke Paoa Kahinu Mokoe Hulikohola Kahanamoku, also known as “The Big Kahuna,” the man who invented surfing. I was told by the shop owner that the dark honey is mostly from avocado flowers. Also, as a note, the avocados grown on Kauai are “to die for.” I finally bought a hat that I admired in the window of one of the shops. Randi had slathered my blistering nose with white zinc oxide ointment that I bought at a pharmacy across the street from Grinds, and I must have been a sight. Ken and Randi went on ahead to JoJo’s for shave ice, while we visited one of my favorite spots on the west side for local products, Ishihara Market. There, I found the elusive Kauai Island honey, more of the Duke’s grandson’s honey, and more taro pancake mix. We met at JoJo’s where I had a #4 Haupia shave ice (coconut) with macadamia nuts. Ari and Saul shared a #2. Ken and Randi went to look at some real estate, while we headed farther west toward the navy base and to revisit some of the beaches there. We could see Ni’ihau, the Forbidden Island, in the distance. Turning around, we gassed up the car in Ele’ele and met Ken and Randi to tour the house they were seeing. After an afternoon nap, we showered, dressed, and headed for Roy’s to celebrate Ari’s birthday. Roy’s has been exceptional these last two years. Saul and I each opted for two different tasting menus which provided a great adventure in dining. Randi, Ari and I polished off a bottle of wine. At the end of this beautiful evening, the waitstaff informed us about the huge 8.9 earthquake and ensuing tsunami in Japan. At first, we thought they were talking about the earthquake that had taken place a few days earlier. Then, they told us that a tsunami was expected to hit the island a few hours hence as a result, and that some people on the island were becoming unnecessarily alarmed and flocking to gas stations and convenience stores. They told us that many people weathered last year’s insignificant tsunami right at the restaurant because they were on high ground. They certainly appeared not to be terribly alarmed and seemed mystified at all the commotion that we later learned about by watching the news after our 10-minute ride back to the condo. My stomach did a flip immediately on hearing the news, however, because I knew that an earthquake of that size must have killed thousands, if not tens of thousands of people. Also, everyone who knows me knows that I have a recurrent nightmare about being underwater in pitch blackness so that I cannot tell which way is up. I have never taken a cruise for this reason and I also particularly hate flying over the ocean at night. Randi was shaken because she cannot even swim. The guys immediately pooh-poohed my idea of getting in our cars and driving up into the mountains until the threat was over. I had to agree for a few reasons. One, our condo was well out of the evacuation zone and on the second and third stories of our building as well. Two, the news media was urging anyone not in an evacuation zone to stay off the roads so that people who needed to evacuate could do so quickly. Three, our route would have needlessly taken us through low-lying areas where there was a chance we might have gotten stuck in traffic. Four, if there had been any devastation, we might be stuck in the middle of nowhere with no food or water.

When we returned home, it was about 10 p.m. and we began the countdown to the tsunami arriving at our shores at 3:07 a.m. by switching on the local news coverage. Watching intermittent coverage of Japan and seeing the devastating footage was very disheartening. We all felt that the local news coverage was very effective and informative, and there were no commercial interruptions the entire evening. My plan of action, which gave me the feeling I had some control and which all three men found laughable, was to move all of our drinks and fresh water and non-perishable food up into the bathtub on the third floor. I also filled whatever large vessels I could find in our kitchen with tap water and carried them upstairs. We could not fill up the bathtubs themselves because the stoppers were missing. On our third floor loft area were Ari’s bedroom with a queen-size bed, an open room with a queen-size bed, and a bathroom. I asked Ari if I could wait out the tsunami in his room. Everyone else went off to bed. Randi set her alarm to awaken them for 2:30 a.m. I was not able to fall asleep. We felt a bit incommunicado because the internet circuits were so busy we could not get a signal. Jess texted Ari about 2:00 a.m. as the East Coast was beginning to wake up and hear the news. He could not return the text and I went downstairs to use Ken’s business phone that he had set up and reached her immediately to tell her what we were doing. Then, Jamie called and reached Ari on his cell and, because she is pregnant and very emotional, I went downstairs again, awakened Randi, and put her on the phone with her daughter. At 2:30 a.m. I awakened Saul to come upstairs. Ken would not be budged from his bed and slept through the whole thing. In retrospect, he was the smart one. Ari would have slept through the whole thing, but was very annoyed that we all piled into his bed to watch the news for the last half hour and woke him. The news had remote live cameras pointed at a beach wall on the North Shore where the tsunami was supposed to strike first. Our island was to be the first in the chain of islands to be hit. The actual tsunami that we watched consisted of just a few waves that were slightly higher than normal and did not even manage to top the low wall. After about 20 minutes, we began to realize that it was over, everybody went back to bed, and I immediately fell asleep in Ari’s bed. I awoke just before sunrise and went back to my own bed. Later in the morning, I moved everything back to the refrigerator, and Randi dumped out the tap water and brought our pots and pitchers back downstairs.

On day 8, we went back to the Kalaheo Café for breakfast after checking to see if it was open. The waitress told us that they were doing a brisk business as many of the locals from evacuation areas had slept in their cars on mountain roads and were gravely in need of a good cup of coffee. The schools and beaches were closed on Friday. Ken and Randi went to Poipu beach anyway for the day. Saul, Ari and I were feeling peevish after our long night. Saul was in pain from the broken rib. I was still very sunburned. Ari was tired. We decided to go for a long drive and get lost on some country roads around the island. In our travels, we came upon little screen houses where farmers put out their produce and you leave money in the cans on the honor system. We bought bananas and a grapefruit/pummelo hybrid. We went to Costco again to buy provisions for Shabbat dinner, then, to the nearby farmers’ market at the soccer field near Lihue airport. We bought an assortment of exotic fruits there, including Saul’s coveted guavas, a mamey sapote, which Ken had greatly enjoyed the previous year, cherimoya, calamansi, rambutan, longan, and cream apples. For dinner we had caesar salad, pasta, seared sesame-crusted tuna, sauteéd mushrooms, glazed Brussels sprouts, steamed beans with roasted beets, and tapioca pudding and leftover flan for dessert.

Day 9 was to be our last full day on Kauai. We were cleaning up leftovers in preparation to move Ken and Randi to their condo on the North Shore where they were going to spend four days before moving back south to the Lawai Resort where they would be spending the rest of their vacation. We had all the usual—omelets, oatmeal, taro pancakes, and tropical Anahola granola. We spent several hours at Poipu Beach on a gloriously beautiful day. A covered picnic area was set up there for an elaborate birthday party for a child. They had a huge inflatable water slide, moon bounce, long white tents with long tables set with centerpieces of tropical flowers and vases with the child’s photo on them. The tropical fish were everywhere in the calm water. After a short time on the beach, I sat at a picnic bench in the shade of a palm tree and tried to soak it all in. Then, we broke camp and headed for the happy hour at Brennecke’s Beach Broiler across the street. Sitting on the open, porch-like second level overlooking the beach, Ari and I polished off two pitchers of made-from-scratch margaritas with a little help from Randi. We all shared a huge plate of nachos which were so delicious with their topping of house-made jalapenos, that we decided to order a second one. Also, we had meant to photograph it, but had forgotten. We were having such a good time, the second one was almost demolished before we realized we had forgotten to photograph it also. Saul, who is never embarrassed by anything, wandered off to shamelessly photograph another table’s order, but theirs was not nearly as pretty as ours because they had ordered everything on the side. We enjoyed our repast so much that it occurred to us that we had all the fixings except the special jalapenos among the leftovers that we needed to use up in the refrigerator, so they packed us up a little container of those and we set off for home. Ari and I walked back along the beautifully landscaped paths of the greenbelt that surrounded our condo area. I immediately took a nap when we returned, but awoke just as the final rays of sunset began to dwindle. I felt a little badly that I had missed it. Randi was busy preparing our third load of nachos. They looked and smelled yummy when they were baked, but only Randi and Ari had any appetite left even hours after we had eaten at Brennecke’s. Later that evening, we all began the packing process so that we could get started with the moving early the next morning.

On our last day, we managed to fit everything into Ken’s large vehicle so that we could return our own rental car to the airport (so as not to be charged extra) on our way north. We unloaded our luggage and paraphernalia at the absolutely beautiful condo that they would be using for four days, changed into bathing suits and cover ups, and headed off to breakfast at Kalypso Island Bar and Grill in Hanapepe. Our vista was of a long, narrow silver streak of a waterfall cascading down a huge green mountain in the distance. No photographs that we could take would do it justice. After breakfast, we lolled on my favorite beach, Ke’e, alongside Bali Hai feeling melancholy and trying to soak up the entire experience before heading off to the airport for our red-eye flights. Finally, tearing ourselves away, we returned to the condo, showered, and dressed for the flight into colder climates. The act of putting on shoes after a week-and-a-half in flip flops is very disheartening. Feeling queasy, I gazed at the beautiful views of cloud enshrouded verdant mountains from every window in the sumptuously-appointed apartment. For dinner, we ate at a very famous downscale joint near the airport, Hamura Saimin. Saimin is the Hawaiian version of Vietnamese pho, a big bowl of steaming noodle soup, perfect for settling a stomach with pre-flight jitters. Across the large communal table from us was a mother with three girls who were roughly the ages of our three granddaughters. They were a great distraction at a very discouraging hour. Ken and Randi dropped us off at the airport where we eventually found ourselves in a very crowded room. Ari and I sat on the carpeted floor while Saul wandered off to engage in conversation with some of the other passengers and eventually, he found a seat. Our plane’s departure was delayed about three times, but finally we boarded in just enough time to catch our connecting flight in Phoenix. For the first few hours, the flight was smooth and I was very grateful for that as we flew over the dark ocean. I again took pills as we hit turbulence for the last two hours before we reached Newark.

Anne was there to pick us up immediately, and we offered to take her out to dinner before heading home. Saul had only taken his pain pills at the beginning of our flight, so he was able to drive us home. We were famished as we had just had time to share a sandwich in Phoenix and had been flying for over eleven hours altogether (the flight home is considerably shorter than the flight there). As Anne drove us back, we came upon a very promising-looking restaurant that she had been wanting to try, BoulevardFive72 and we read very good reviews of it on Yelp as Anne parked the car on their adjacent parking lot. I think we were all unprepared for how elegant and upscale it truly was when we entered. In the end, I think of our experience there as a serendipitous finale to our Hawaiian vacation. The menu was intriguing and inviting with most entreés in the $18 to $30 price range, only $5 to $10 more than one would pay for dinner at a Red Lobster, for example. As tired as we were, it turned out to be a “wow” restaurant experience. The food was ample, gorgeously presented, and succulent. The ambience was warm, cozy, and elegant, all at the same time. The waitstaff was friendly, efficient, and professional without being stuffy. We were so happy that everything turned out as it did. When we finally got home, we literally dropped our bags inside the door and collapsed into bed. Saul needed to be up at 6:00 a.m. the next morning for school.

Monday, February 28, 2011

Crash!

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It feels like a tremendous amount of time has gone by since I last posted. I barely remember everything I wished to write about, but at least some of the photos will spur me on. There were really good reasons not to write. I had a major hard drive crash and Saul, with all his finagling, could not even get my computer to boot up with an external drive. We made an appointment to take my baby to the Apple Store in King of Prussia Mall the next day, and not even the gurus there could do anything with it. As it turned out, I had to wait almost a week before it was back on my desk again. Both the hard drive, and a temperature-sensing cable had burned out, and the store did not have the cable in stock. I have a time capsule attached, so I fretted the whole week until I knew for sure that we would truly be able to restore my data. That part worked like a charm, thank God! During that week, data for two large jobs began to pile up and I worried also that I would not have time to get them out of the way before all three girls come for the next ten days while Saul is working. After that there are only a few days left before we leave for Kauai for ten days. Once my data was restored, my keyboard stopped working and had to be replaced. I lost a day that way and I can’t even describe the level of discomfort that caused. Then, my fonts disappeared and we decided to upgrade my page layout software. Thankfully, in the last three days I have spent many hours fruitfully, and I have finally gotten those jobs to the point where I am comfortable again. I really love the upgraded InDesign.

We have had a couple really great weekends in Baltimore/DC and I tried not to let the anxiety get to me. The first weekend of February, Izzy and Sami had a birthday party sleepover for 12 girls…

Since I began writing this post two weeks ago, more time has expired and I am struggling to get it posted so that at least there will be one entry for February.

To continue, the birthday party was adorable—six of Izzy’s friends for her actual birthday on Groundhog Day, and six of Sami’s friends for her half birthday because it was the first time since August that Jess was able to assemble six of her friends to sleep over. Since the party activities included nail polishing and cake decorating, I made a nail polish bottle cake surrounded by 14 gingerbread hands with icing-polished nails so that each girl could decorate her own hand cookie. They had a blast decorating them with food coloring markers, extra icing and candy decors. Each hand was as unique as the girl decorating it. We also supervised while each girl rolled her own sushi and made her own personal pizza. During the party, Ari took Yona off to a quiet place and tried to put her to bed. We had brought Alex’s mom, Elaine, along for the weekend, along with my sister, Adele, so there were plenty of adults to help out. According to reports the next day, most of the girls actually went to sleep during the night.

One of our goals for spending the weekend in Baltimore/DC was that Ari’s furniture was delivered that Friday while he was at work, and that went as smoothly as could be. The two guys who delivered the massive wall unit and bedroom furniture were extremely competent, helpful and pleasant. The furniture looks beautiful and fits perfectly in the rooms. They left us enough time to get to Baltimore for a birthday tea for Izzy in her first grade classroom at Waldorf. With the leftover gingerbread from the hand cookies, I made gingerbread stars for Izzy to share with her classmates. Her teacher made a pretty china potful of tea and we all sat around and shared stories about our favorite memories of kindergarten before school ended for the week. Ari left work a little early on Friday so he could see the furniture and joined us in Baltimore for one of Alex’s amazing Shabbat dinners where we were joined by Alex’s sister Naomi, her husband Matt, Alex’s brother Aaron, his wife Stacey, and their three children, Jacob, Lily and Zach.

During the weekend, in addition to the activities of the birthday party, we took Adele on a driving tour of DC, and walked through the Vietnam and Korean War Memorials. The day was chilly and soggy. By the time we took our short walk back to the car, we were shivering and damp and decided that the rest of the day’s activities should be indoors. We spent hours contentedly wandering in the National Portrait Gallery and Smithsonian American Art Museum. Ari bought Izzy and Sami art books from the delightful selection in the gift shop there. Izzy’s came with red/blue 3D glasses and was designed with special backgrounds and markers to enable her to make 3D drawings and doodles. Sami’s was a blueprint for creating 3D architectural models from folding and cutting white paper (sort of advanced origami). Adele mentioned that she loved a good diner, so one day, we had a delightful breakfast at the Metro 29 diner. Waiting to have dinner at a Cheesecake Factory in Bethesda, we were treated to a bird’s eye view of about a dozen couples, dressed for the occasion, doing the tango in the central atrium of the mall—one of the special events for public participation hosted weekly by the mall.

Sunday afternoon, before heading home, we all went to Johns-Hopkins University to meet our cousin, Anne, and watch her son, Max, win along with his team, in a fencing tournament there. The girls were very fascinated with the outfits, protective gear, foils, and electronic tethers. They especially loved helping pull up all the blue tape boundary markers from the large gymnasium floor and rolling it into a big ball for disposal. I had never been up close and live in a fencing match, so it was a great learning experience for me as well. Our drive back on Sunday evening was pleasant, but very tiring after all the weekend’s activities. Elaine’s little puppy, Shana, got along a lot better this time with Jess and Alex’s dogs.

On February 10, Saul’s birthday, a Memorial Lecture was given by Alex at the Princeton Jewish Center in memory of his father, Maury. Traditionally, Chevra Kadisha (Jewish burial) societies everywhere hold a dinner on the seventh of Adar (according to Bible interpreters, the traditional date of the death of Moses). Maury was a founding member of the Chevra Kadisha society in Princeton. I went to Faith’s class that Thursday morning, and later in the afternoon, Faith joined us for the dinner and lecture in Princeton. The whole family was welcomed warmly and made to feel at home by the heartfelt hospitality of our hosts. The dinner was ample and beautifully planned. Alex gave a wonderful d’var Torah and spoke eloquently of his meaningful Jewish family life with Maury. Afterward, Saul and I took the girls home with us and put them to bed as Alex needed to be back in Baltimore the next morning to help prepare the festivities for the beginning of the writing of a brand-new Torah at Chizuk Amuno. While Saul attended a rare Friday meeting at CHC, the girls helped me prepare dinner to take to Baltimore for Shabbat. Alex was putting in so many hours that he would not have had time to prepare. We took a tray of stuffed cabbage, black and white rice, leftover vegetarian meatballs, Israeli salad, homemade challot and pareve chocolate cake. Jessica defrosted some of Alex’s yummy soups. Alex had a rare opportunity to relax a little before dinner. We got into a terrible traffic jam on the way there and spent an extra hour on the road. After dinner, we took Sami and Izzy to DC with us so they would be out of the way until the launch on Sunday. After a quick breakfast at home the next morning, Ari and I took the girls to the National Building Museum where a special architectural Lego exhibit was being held. Saul stayed behind because he had many papers to read to catch up with his school work. The four of us spent hours among the tens of thousands of Lego pieces constructing our own buildings. Ari and I worked on a gray, black and white asymmetrical design which we never finished because Izzy realized suddenly that she was hungry and we were so into our design that we had not realized that two hours had gone by. We walked a couple of blocks to the Sushi Go-Round and had sushi there, seated at a counter where plates of sushi pass by on a conveyor belt and you grab whatever looks interesting. After that, we toured some parts of the National Gallery across the street that we had not seen with Adele, such as the folk art exhibit. Throughout the museum, docents are stationed to provide hands-on experiences for kids with something called “art a la cart.” At the first station, the girls were provided with cameras and props and learned about camera angle and perspective. They were shown examples of an artist whose specialty was unusual perspectives. Then they were supposed to arrange their props and camera angle to get an unusual perspective. Their photos were printed for them on the spot. At another cart, they were given found objects, like bottle caps, shells, and stones to arrange in three-dimensional fashion within a flat box. At another, they were handed sample pieces of driftwood and bronze treated to look like driftwood for a giant modern art horse statue. After a few hours there, we picked up Saul and drove to Silver Spring to see the 3D movie Gnomeo and Juliet, sort of cute with a few good laughs and nice Elton John music, but the kids just said “ehhh.” We had dinner across the street at a Chinese buffet that was handy, cheap, not too crowded, had a huge selection including unusual food that we have never seen elsewhere, but was of dubious cleanliness. It must have been okay because none of us got sick. The girls were happy with their sushi… again.

The program for the Torah-writing was amazing! The synagogue was teeming with as many people as the cavernous sanctuary holds on Yom Kippur. The first people to write the initial few letters walked down the center aisle under a series of chuppot, each held aloft by four congregants with poles at each corner of the tallit. There were people stationed at various places, including the balcony, who blew multiple shofarot, a spine-tingling sound when they are all on cue together. The obligatory speeches were interesting, and not overly long. A choir, composed of about 200 adults and children who barely fit on the ample bimah, sang a moving and harmonious “Lechi Lach” by recently-deceased Debbie Friedman. Large projection screens on either side of the bimah allowed the entire audience to see, first-hand, the flow of ink onto parchment as the hand of the sofer (scribe) guided each writer in the completion of a previously outlined Hebrew letter. Finally, there was an incredible, beautifully-presented, banquet for hundreds, perhaps over a thousand, congregants, with live music and dancing. It was a great celebration of a momentous occasion, and probably the only time in my life that I will get to see a Torah begun. I was very proud of my son-in-law, Alex, who had worked behind the scenes tirelessly to make sure that everything ran smoothly. We left afterward to begin the long ride home.

The next few days, I worked tirelessly to almost complete both publications that had deadlines before the girls were due to arrive for a week here. My computer was finally behaving and I loved the new upgraded software I was now using. On Thursday, I attended Faith’s class, having gotten my work under control. Saul decided that it would be easier to meet Jessica and pick up the girls directly from his school rather than coming home to pick me up first. I used the couple of hours to put in a supply of food from Costco and the supermarket so that I would not have to take the girls out myself during the week. I especially purchased lots of supplies for baking vast quantities of hamantaschen. The girls’ Waldorf School puts on a Purimshpiel every other year, and Jessica volunteered to arrange for the hamantaschen. Others were supposed to help, but I think we probably baked enough during the week to supply the whole school. Sami and Izzy were excellent helpers. We baked for a couple of hours each day and made at least two flavors each time. The work went so fast with me rolling, Izzy cutting, and Sami filling and pinching, that we made hundreds by the time the week was over. Yona was content to sit at the table in her booster seat watching us work and looking at the Sprout network on television. Occasionally, we would give her a warm cookie, which she ate by sucking out the middle and then nibbling the leftover cookie. She liked all the flavors, including poppy seed and prune.

Friday morning, we took all of them to Nordstrum Rack in King of Prussia to get much-needed shoes. We bought Yona her first pair of sneakers—two shades of pink with Velcro closings. Izzy and Sami each got a pair of sneakers, and Izzy got white dress shoes. We got back home just in time to have some lunch and prepare the challah dough and soup. Faith came in the afternoon with her granddaughter, Hilary, who is only one week apart in age from Sami, and took the girls to Michael’s to buy them knitting yarn. They came home with not only that, but novelty items as well, a plastic snake that grew in water for Izzy, a set of wind-up walking feet for Sami, and an Elmo puppet book for Yona. Faith and Hilary joined us for Shabbat dinner along with her son, Jon. While I was shaping the challot, I gave each girl a lump of dough and they each made their own individually-shaped challah. Hilary  made hers in the shape of the letter “H.” Larry was not feeling well that evening, and Beth was away on vacation. I made a simple dinner of leek, potato, and Cope’s dried corn soup; cheese tortellini; spinach salad with hot sesame dressing; steamed asparagus; with hamantaschen and ice cream for dessert. Gale force winds on Saturday kept us from going to services as we had planned. The girls’ cousin, Brenna, who lives nearby, came to play with the girls on Saturday afternoon. They played nicely together. We ordered pizza to be delivered on Saturday night, and afterward, the girls climbed into our bed to watch an old movie I had recorded on TiVo, Puss in Boots, with Christopher Walken, a really B movie that he must have made long before he became famous. He played the cat that changes into a man. Erica came by to pick up Brenna later in the evening. On Sunday, we baked and iced two Presley Bella marble angel food cakes in honor of Sister Lisa’s birthday. Saul took them to work on Monday so that one could be shared with colleagues and the other with housemates. In the late afternoon on Sunday, we went to Faith’s house for knitting lessons with Hilary. The girls were more interested in playing with Faith’s vast collection of dolls. Larry met us there also. He was feeling better and Faith had invited him also for an ice cream party of epic proportions. The table was set with all types of cookies, pretzels, candy, toppings, and a large selection of ice cream flavors. We all pigged out. As it turned out, Izzy cast on stitches on a set of Faith’s needles with lightning speed and taught me to knit sitting on my lap so that I could follow her fingering. She complained that the back of her neck was hot from my breathing on her. Having knitted a bit 30 years ago, I was able to knit a small blanket for her mini teddy bear by the time we were ready to leave. She has already made her own knitting needles and a scarf for herself at school as part of the first grade curriculum at Waldorf.

On Monday, Presidents Day, Brenna was off from school and Erica picked up the two older girls and took them home with her to spend the day with Brenna. They had fun playing with all her toys and had felafal for dinner there.

During the beginning of the week that they were here I got very little sleep. Yona kept waking in the middle of the night and screaming. I didn’t want Saul to lose sleep because he had to be at work, so I spent hours holding her until she would go back to sleep. Then, we realized that we were creating a monster as the intervals grew longer and the screaming grew louder. We decided to spend only 20 minutes with her at bedtime, and 20 minutes if she needed a diaper change in the middle of the night. The screaming intervals grew much shorter after the first 15-minute temper tantrum and by the end of the week, there was barely a whimper at bedtime or nap time. During the week, she was very cooperative about using the potty. Considering her age, this is most remarkable. I think she will probably be completely trained by the time she is two. She is also very verbal. These days, we can mostly figure out what she is trying to say.
Wednesday evening, we took the three of them out to King Buffet in Plymouth Meeting. They had been indoors all week and I thought it would give them a chance to run around the mall and get some exercise. Then we rode with them on the carousel there for Izzy’s birthday and bought them punching balloons. Yona did not seem to like the carousel very much. She is the first one not to adore it. They all had such a grand time with the punching balloons, however, that almost every mother that walked by had to buy one for her child as well.
On Thursday, we made the filled chocolate, almond, coconut cupcakes that I had submitted for a recipe contest. Izzy has been reminding me for six weeks that she never had a chance to taste the prototype of those cupcakes. The two of them practically made every step of the cupcakes themselves as I was busy with Yona while we were putting them together. It really is a yummy recipe. If it doesn’t win, I will post it shortly on my recipe blog. The girls were wonderful helping with laundry and cleaning up so that we could finish packing for the trip back home Thursday afternoon. We met Jessica at Bahama Breeze in Towson, where we had a very long, drawn-out dinner together. The manager stopped by to apologize for the long wait for our dinners. At least the girls’ food came right away, but they were finished eating dinner by the time our dinners arrived.

Saul had a conference to attend at the Sheraton in Baltimore on Friday. We drove to DC after dinner, and got up at 5 a.m. the next morning to drive back to Baltimore. Alex took Yona to day care and Jess, on her way to work, dropped the older girls and me off at a nearby strip mall to spend the day at Barnes & Noble so that I would not have to deal with my allergies to the dogs all day at her house. Until it opened up at 9 a.m., we had pastries in a nearby Starbucks. When it opened, I read tales to the girls from an adaptation of Arabian Nights until Izzy grew restless. The girls shared a stuffed pizza pretzel and a large rice crispy treat at the café there. Then I bought Izzy a vanity book that had a lock and key, and Sami a book called Uber Origami. After that, the girls both chose lemon sorbet at a Cold Stone Creamery. Then, we shopped for a while in Pier 1 Imports, where luckily, they had a whole rack of imported novelty toy items for Easter that kept the girls amused for half an hour while a hailstorm suddenly materialized and raged outside the store for a while until we were ready to leave. From there, we went to Café Fresh where I had a half sandwich, veggie chips, and peach juice while the girls played with their new books. After that, we spent an hour in Trader Joe’s picking up a few odds and ends and searching for the elusive stuffed bear “Meep,” which we never found. Jess met us a Trader Joe’s and did some heavy-duty shopping there. After dropping the girls at home with Alex, Jess and I headed for the new Seven-Mile Market, an entirely kosher supermarket. Arriving home and unloading the groceries, Jess then drove Alex and me over to the synagogue so that Alex could prepare for a family Shabbat dinner that evening for Izzy’s classmates’ families. I waited, reading, in the library there until it was time for dinner. The program was adorable. After the usual brachot, (blessings) and a buffet turkey dinner, Alex narrated a story about King Cyrus of Persia and his Shabbat encounter with a Jewish man named Nehemiah. The story was told with the class acting out the scenes in front of a series of long backdrops which the class had created for the occasion. After dessert of fresh fruit and cookies, and the birkat hamazon, (blessings after the meal) Saul and I headed back to DC.

The next morning, we breakfasted at Metro 29, and then set out to find headlights for Ari’s car, batteries for our key fobs for the Prius, which had just about stopped working, and haircuts, which we all needed before our vacation in Hawaii in a few days. We found all those things in a strip mall near Tyson’s Corner in Virginia. Then, we went to Tyson’s II, which is about as upscale a mall as I have ever seen outside of China. There is a unique type of shop there called “The Grooming Lounge,” which specializes in pampering spa-type services for men only. On the spur of the moment, because they had one opening, Ari decided to have his back hair removed by waxing before our beach vacation. The process, which they told us would take a half hour, took an hour and a half. Ari said that the process was no more painful than he had anticipated, and that he would probably do it again as necessary. While waiting for his appointment we found a beautiful area rug that he is considering buying for his bedroom made from pieced-together strips of cowhide that is naturally and subtly colored. The showroom of Bo Concepts, to give an idea of the upscale nature of this mall, has a full free buffet on the weekends with wine, bottled water, cheeses, fresh fruit, Italian salami, antipasto, assorted olives,  etc., etc. A live string quartet was performing all afternoon standing atop the floor model area rug that Ari was considering purchasing. For dinner, we had an absolutely delicious and very reasonably-priced Thai meal at Sawatdee in Arlington.

On Sunday, after dim sum at China Garden, we drove to Belfort Furniture where Ari purchased a headboard for our bed at his house. His headboard is still on order there and we found that his second lamp has not come in either. They will be able to deliver both headboards together this way. The flower bulbs Ari and I planted last fall are starting to poke through in his garden despite the violent weather this past weekend. We stopped in Baltimore on the way home to drop off an extra set of Ari’s keys to Jessica and pick up our insulated bag, which had transported the hamantaschen to Jessica’s freezer and which we plan to take back to Hawaii to gather exotic foodstuffs for our meals there. We leave way early on Thursday morning and all my work is done!

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Over 1,000 WWII Letters and Tu B’Shevat

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We were very lucky to be able to hold our Tu B’Shevat seder on Friday night. On Thursday, after a wonderful class with Faith exploring the structure of the Mishneh Torah and other writings of Maimonides, a class that is now so well-attended that we are running out of room at a conference table that seats about 25, Saul and I went on a fruit and nut scavenger hunt to purchase everything we needed for our seder. The weather predictions for Friday were dire, but we decided to be optimistic, and, as it turned out, we were very glad we were. Friday evening’s Shabbat dinner was delightful, and was shared with good friends who were very appreciative.

To purchase everything, we shopped at Assi Market and Wegman’s. After Wegman’s we had a yummy dinner together at Bonefish Grill where we are running out of time to use up our complimentary certificates that we received when when purchased gift cards for the holidays. I had made the trek all the way to Wegman’s hoping to find some of the more exotic fruits, but was only able to bag an Israeli persimmon and a star fruit, or carambola there. It was a delicious, ripe one, though. Assi was again disappointing this year, with none of the exotics that I usually find there, but altogether, we had quite a variety. For dinner, we had our scripted seder first, sampling at least 20 different fruits and nuts of four categories, accompanied by white, mixed, blush and dark grape juice. We were able to dip our fruit in vanilla custard sauce that I made to use up a vanilla bean that had been stewed with quinces that I had cooked last week. Along with our fruits and nuts, we had homemade guacamole with whole-grain chips, and Comté cheese with homemade membrillo. We were joined by Larry, Faith, Terry, Gene, and Sister Lisa from Chestnut Hill College. It was a very congenial evening, and although the weather outside was frigid, below 10° fahrenheit, inside we were warm and comfortable. After the seder, we had chestnut-soup, vegetarian meatballs, barley pilaf, and maple-glazed Brussels sprouts with chestnuts. For dessert, we had carob cake with pumpkin-flavored fresh-brewed coffee and tea. We broke apart the chocolate orange that I had purchased a while ago at Trader Joe’s and found the dark chocolate to be of very good quality. We continued to munch on all the fruits and nuts.

On Saturday morning, Saul and I attended services at MBIEE where Saul said kaddish for my Uncle Stef, whose name is memorialized there. Services were followed by a Tu B’Shevat seder that we helped to prepare. A few days before, Lori, one of the congregants, had requested a shopping list from us, and I had emailed her our script for the seder, which allowed her to figure out what she would need to purchase and how to group the fruit. The seder script prepared by Rabbi Addison was more elaborate than ours and contained many interesting points that I think I will try to incorporate into our seder for next year. When Saul and I returned home, we loaded the dishwasher with a second load of dishes from the previous night, and went off to take a nap. In view of the cold, nasty, weather, we decided to spend a quiet evening at home. We ate leftovers for dinner, watched t.v., and went back to sleep early.

Also on Saturday evening, we booked flights to Kauai, Hawaii, online. We will be joining Ken and Randi in their three-bedroom condo for 10 days. Although we had been hoping to bag the flights that go through Phoenix for around $750, we wound up paying almost $850. The flight from Phoenix to Lihue is filling up, and in view of our horrible weather here right now, we didn’t want to miss taking the trip because of $100.

Sunday morning, after watching a segment on CBS Sunday Morning about handwriting, its history, and the art of letter writing, I was inspired to begin scanning the letters that my parents had written to each other while they were separated during WWII. I spent a weekend last year, shortly after Mom died reading a folio of Dad’s letters to Mom. Since then, I have been eyeing the large plastic carton into which all the rest of the letters have been consolidated with the thought that eventually (especially once I had a convenient scanning set-up) I would get around to scanning them. The segment, and some free time during which Saul had school work to accomplish, gave me the incentive to get started. Little did I suspect what a treasure trove is contained in that box. Initially, I had not intended to read them, but during the scanning process, little tidbits of phrases jumped out at me and I could not resist the urge to read more. Needless to say, the scanning process has been slow, but fascinating. I have been scanning for the better part of three days now, and I have almost finished a folder that contains just letters from my mother to my father, and letters that others had written to the two of them during the months of March, April and May 1944. My mother organized them in this most unsatisfying manner so that I will not be able to relate letters and their answers to each other until I have scanned the whole lot. I have been organizing the scanned letters by date and by who has written to whom. In the meantime, I have learned a great deal about the personalities of their friends and relatives, some of whom died young, and I never got to meet them, or whom I only knew in later years as I grew up. I wasn’t born until 1950, six years after most of these letters were written. Apparently, they wrote to each other just about every single day, sometimes in v-mail form, but most often in long newsy letters that, in my mother’s case, run from 4 to 12 pages in single-spaced type (she was a legal secretary and typed very well). I have three folios of this type from my mother, 2 from my father, and four archival boxes of letters that I haven’t even begun to explore. My father also wrote letters in beautifully-scripted Yiddish (it is written with Hebrew characters and they all called it “Jewish” back then) to his mother, who was from Russia, and I will be calling on Saul to translate them for me. I doubt that there are many examples of these letters, as they would not have been in my mother’s possession. I also find myself wondering what became of the letters, to which they refer, which they wrote back to their friends and relatives. I am beginning to understand how Solomon Schechter must have felt when he began to research the remnants in the geniza of the Great Synagogue of Cairo.

A big snowstorm is underway at the moment which began this morning and is supposed to worsen this evening. Saul taught all day, but getting to school was a horrible mess. In Baltimore, the schools were closed and Jess emailed photos of the girls’ snow day and Yona’s first encounter with snow which was not too pleasant because she was very unhappy with the lack of flexibility in her snow boots. I canceled a dinner date with our friends, Susan and Paul, whom we haven’t seen in several months. Right now, I would rather be going out for dinner and a lively conversation about their recent international travels.

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Family Get-Together, Presley is Two

 

 

This past weekend was so enjoyable and I can’t help thinking about how my mother would have so enjoyed herself with her children, grandchildren, and great-granddaughters. Friday night Shabbat dinner was very laid-back, compared to the frenetic pace we had been keeping this past month. Larry, Beth, and Faith joined us. We had homemade challah from the freezer; a delicious lentil soup that can never be duplicated because I used the water left over from boiling 100 whole wheat matzoh balls and then threw in all kinds of leftovers from the refrigerator, including carrots, spinach, two kinds of red wine, honey mustard, ketchup, etc.; Israeli salad; homemade guacamole with whole grain tortilla chips; black and white rice; Kugel Yerushalayim; kosher stuffed cabbage from Costco; and leftover pareve Texas sheet cake. Saul forgot to tell me that Larry was bringing kasha and potato knishes, and poppy seed cake to add to our list of carbs, but I think that is because he really wanted me to make the kugel anyway.

Ari joined us on Saturday afternoon. We attended services at MBIEE and Rabbi Addison’s sermon was a tribute to Debbie Friedman, who died of pneumonia this past week. The funeral service was streamed over the Internet, live from Beth Shalom in Santa Ana, CA, which allowed tens of thousands to attend from all over the world. At the end of his sermon, the congregation, led by Rabbi Addison, sang L’chi Lach. Her passing is a great loss to the Jewish community. She was a trailblazer in many ways.

In the evening, we drove to Oaks to check out bedroom furniture and rugs at The Dump, but again left empty-handed. In the next shopping center over was a big Regal 24 movie theater and we decided to see Tron in 3D there. Although the storyline didn’t really make much sense, logically, the movie was, as Ari said, “visually stunning.” We really enjoyed it on those merits. When we left the theater, it was quite late and we had not eaten. We didn’t realize that it was such a long movie. We drove back home to the Metropolitan American Diner, where Ari had not been before, and which is open until 1 a.m. on a Saturday night. We were the only people in the restaurant at 10 p.m. and we sat by a cozy warm fire and big-screen t.v. and watched the Green Bay Packers beat the Atlanta Falcons in a semi-final game, while we munched on yummy sandwiches and sweet potato fries.

Jessica arrived at our house with the girls looking beautiful in their party dresses on Sunday morning and followed us to Ken and Randi’s for Presley’s second birthday party. The family party was great fun with all the kids interacting with each other and all the adults catching up with each others’ lives. After the party, we headed along with Jess, Ari, and the girls for a vegetarian dinner at Thai Orchid. The girls really enjoyed the food, especially Yona, who dipped everything in the peanut sauce that accompanied our orders of crispy fried golden tofu. At one point, the waitress removed the almost-empty dipping bowl when she was clearing the table and Yona protested loudly. Quickly, Jess got our waitress to bring the bowl back for Yona before she got to the kitchen with our dirty dishes. Izzy has a thing for the soy-based dipping sauce that accompanied the Buddha’s dumplings. All through the meal, Sami kept reminding us about the creamy mango ice cream, her favorite, served in a chocolate cup on a pool of mango and raspberry sauces. The restaurant was running out of mango ice cream, and gave us a cup filled with half mango and half coconut, which was perfect because Izzy loves coconut, and so did Yona. The service was really slow, so we were there about two hours. Considering the type of day they had, and the time spent at the table, the girls were little angels. Jess headed back to Baltimore with the girls after dinner.

Saul’s new semester began on Monday, but for Ari, MLK Day is a holiday. We took his car over, first thing in the morning, to the Mercedes dealer in Fort Washington for its big check-up. Then, Ari and I went over to Costco to look at their furniture, and we left completely empty-handed (first time for me). We also went to Thomasville Furniture to look around and stopped in to look around Impact! across the street. Then, we stopped into Blue Bell Kitchens to look around, and I was very impressed with some of the cabinets, countertops, and glass and ceramic tile that I saw there. Ari and I had lunch at Sultan, which has a respectable lunch buffet. Then, we went back to pick up his car, which was ready. Ari took some photos of our kitchen and bath, finished his laundry and packing, and when Saul arrived, we went back with him to Blue Bell Kitchens so that he could see the cabinets and countertops I liked and we could discuss our renovation ideas for a bit. After that, Ari was on his way back to DC, loaded with frozen homemade chicken soup, whole wheat matzoh balls, dumplings, and leftover kugel Yerushalayim.

Yesterday, after a snow and an ice storm, school’s opening was delayed for two hours. In the evening, Saul found a free program on the Net called SiteSucker, which allowed him to download for archiving, within just a few minutes, the complete contents of both my blogs, saving me hours of cutting and pasting. It almost makes up for the mess in my photos that has been caused by the changes in Picasa.

The weather is supposed to continue to be awful for the next few days, and I don’t know whether I will be able to hold my planned Tu B’Shevat seder on Friday evening. Tu B’Shevat, the Jewish Arbor Day, begins tomorrow at sundown and ends on Friday at sundown.

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Our Winter Vacation and Transition into 2011

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Uh Oh!
Somehow, along with the New Year, all the options that have allowed me to post slide shows for the last few years have changed and both my blogs have lost contact (I hope for the time being!) 
with their connected slideshows. Having torn my hair out for the last few hours trying to restore my blog and post my new photos, and having not much more time or hair to spare, 
I await answers to “WHAT HAPPENED?!!!”
on the technical forums and hope there is a knight in shining armor out there that can help me.


Saul and I strove to get a few days of adult time together at the end of this semester before the girls were due to arrive to join us for their winter vacation. While we greatly enjoy their visits, the spontaneity of meeting friends for lunch or dinner at the last minute, catching an adult movie, etc. are curtailed completely during our time together. During the week before they joined us we had lunch with Saul’s colleagues from CHC, a lunch that had to be rescheduled because of the death of an old friend. Marty’s wife, Marilyn, died suddenly, shocking all of us, back in March. For some years now, this brilliant doctor had been gradually sinking into dementia and his beloved wife had been his devoted caretaker. After her death, Marty accompanied his son, Jacob, who is a rabbi, back to Jacob’s home and family in Israel, where they all had been lovingly caring for him. Marty passed away peacefully. As the family expressed during the funeral, with Marilyn’s death, Marty had lost his anchor in this world. Marty, in his heyday, was brilliant with words. He sat across from me for many years on Thursday mornings in Faith’s Bible class and rarely did we have a class where he did not come up with a clever pun related to our conversations. Puns are purely intellectual humor and I admired his quick wit. He was a kind man and an avid reader. We will miss both of them now, immensely. His body was flown back to the U.S., accompanied by Jacob, to be interred alongside his beloved wife. The funeral was on one of the most bitterly cold days I can remember. Although we were all bundled up with scarves, gloves and hats, Saul caught a cold and was definitely a bit under the weather for the first few days of our vacation.

On one of those days, at her invitation, we met Marianne, my mother’s hospice volunteer, and her friend Cliff, for a delightful lunch together at Foulkeways, the magnificent retirement community where they live. Marianne had just moved from a two bedroom to a one bedroom condo there. Her children had helped her to downsize, and the new apartment looked much more spacious because a lot of the clutter had been organized or had disappeared. As we enter our eighties and nineties, may we all have our health and sane minds and live such a stimulating and secure lifestyle as Marianne. She and Cliff seem to be very, very happy with their situation. After our lunch together, the two of them were preparing to shop for items of food which they needed to prepare the next day at a soup kitchen where, along with others from Foulkeways, they serve the homeless once a week.

One day, while Saul was attending meetings, I picked up Adele and we met Roxy at Blue Sage to celebrate Adele’s birthday and to enjoy those exceptional fried green tomato sandwiches again. We all ordered the same lunch and I gave Adele and Roxy solid chocolate oranges for their November birthdays, a gift that I always gave Roxy for her birthday and which had disappeared in recent years. Actually, originally, it was a chocolate apple, but I was delighted to find that Trader Joe’s now has both milk and dark chocolate oranges available.

We were at home the weekend of December 18 and 19. Two of our congregants at MBIEE were being honored, Natalie and Elaine. Natalie had called to see if we would be attending and I had told her we would try. Larry and Faith came for Shabbat dinner and I pulled a meal together at the last minute with homemade challah from the freezer, quick black bean soup, also from the freezer, red and green leaf lettuce salad, tortellini with butter and parmesan, a pumpkin pie from Costco with whipped cream and leftover frozen squares of Texas sheet cake from Larry’s birthday. Beth was away that weekend. On Saturday, after attending services, and enjoying a luncheon in our friends’ honor, we hurried home to wait for Ari, Neri, and the three girls to arrive for the weekend. With Yona along, we spent the entire weekend at home, which seemed to be just fine with everyone. As before, Yona seemed very comfortable here. We did have a minor incident where Saul managed to talk Izzy into “being a big girl” and sharing her blue “blanky” with Yona, because Jess had forgotten to pack Yona’s favorite blanket. Then, unbeknown to us, she decided she wanted it back and talked Sami into getting it for her. When Ari went to bed, Yona was standing in her crib complaining that Sami and Izzy had taken her blanket. I went and got her my mother’s favorite blue afghan and Ari was able to get her back to sleep without much protest. On Sunday morning, after I made a big breakfast, Ari, Neri and Saul took a tour of the new YMCA which opened nearby and were absolutely wowed by the facilities. They were able to arrange a one-week, complimentary membership for Neri so that he could work out and practice basketball there. We dropped him off almost every morning during the week, sometimes with a sandwich so that he could spend the day. Ari took Yona back home to Jess and Alex on Sunday evening. They were supposed to have gone to a party at Naomi’s house on Sunday, but got the days mixed up. The girls were happy playing together and vegging in front of the t.v. Izzy decided to play shopkeeper and proudly set up a store in the living room where she was a very convincing saleslady.

During the week before we met in the Poconos, we took the Pilot into the dealership to be serviced and took the girls to breakfast at the Perkins across the street. We spent a whole day touring downtown Philadelphia, including the Liberty Bell. We passed on touring Independence Hall. Neri had wanted to see it because of the movie “National Treasure,” but the top was encased in scaffolding, and we were required, once we got there, to walk two blocks in the bitter cold to pick up tickets for the tour. Saul walked the two blocks to pick them up, but then we realized that they were timed, and we would have had to wait around for 45 minutes with two children and nothing to do. Instead, we decided to take advantage of our membership at the Franklin Institute, where we, the girls, and Neri had a great time. The institute was not very crowded that day and we were among the last to leave as the museum closed for the evening. Also during the week, we shopped and prepared food for our vacation in the Poconos, including snickerdoodles and jumbo oatmeal, peanut butter and raisin cookies. One day, we took the girls for a really fun lunch at Bahama Breeze and to see “Tangled” in 3D at the IMAX theater in King of Prussia. We all loved it!

On the Thursday before Christmas, we spent the morning packing and loading up the Pilot to head to the Poconos. The girls and Neri were really helpful to both of us, hauling boxes and bags so that Saul could pack the car efficiently. As always, the car was packed to the teeth and everyone was making jokes about how there was enough food to last for a month. Once the car was loaded, we stopped at Costco to buy orange juice and to have some late lunch. We made the impulsive purchase of a featured dual screen dvd player for the car when we learned that the girls’ previous one had died. When we arrived after the one-and-a-half-hour drive and unloaded, we left the girls with Neri and, as darkness fell, Saul and I went to pick up a wheelbarrow full of firewood for the evening and order a half-cord of firewood to be dropped off the next day to get through the week. When Ari arrived a short time later, we sat down to a dinner of black bean soup and soba with sautéed mushrooms. Jess and Alex arrived about 8:30 p.m. with Yona, had some dinner also, and after the girls were settled down for the night, we sat by the fire and schmoozed.

Our intention was to awake early and Alex was going to take the girls skiing, but he was exhausted, slept late, and it was bitterly cold that morning. He stayed in with Yona, who protested loudly when we tried to put on her coat to take her out with us. She, too, wanted stay home and take a nap. The rest of us met at Van Gilder’s Jubilee Restaurant for a large, leisurely breakfast. Afterward, Jess took the girls back to the house and Ari, Neri, Saul and I went to check out a few facilities that we wanted to see. We went to see the new Mt. Airy Casino Resort, but Neri was stopped for I.D. before we were able to enter. Then, we went to check out the indoor water park at Great Wolf Lodge, but discovered that you needed to be a guest at the hotel to use the facilities. The hotel and water park looked wonderful, but the vast lobby looked like a zoo with long lines of families sitting on their suitcases waiting to check in and children climbing on every available surface while they waited. Leaving there, we found ourselves passing The Crossings, a huge outlet mall, after just five minutes of driving. We decided to stop so that I could hunt for bathing suits, which Jess had remembered for the girls, but which I had forgotten for us. No luck with the bathing suits, but Saul got a great pair of waterproof leather boots at the Bass Outlet at 80% off. He got the boots, which had originally been around $150, for $35. We continued on to see the inviting indoor water park nearer to our house at the Galleria at Split Rock Lodge. The gift shop had reasonably priced bathing suits, but I decided to wait and see how the rest of the week would play out. Arriving back at the house, we began warming up the Shabbat dinner I had begun preparing and frozen, in parts, weeks ago—homemade challah, chicken soup, Israeli salad, kohlrabi coleslaw, sliced smoked turkey in giblet gravy, chestnut stuffing, butternut apple crisp, and the pareve cookies I had made with the girls. We lit our candles, opened a bottle of wine Ari had brought, and had a cozy and delightful dinner together. Then, we settled in to await the snowstorm that was expected. On Shabbat, we just hung out in the house all day, played with the girls, and ate, and ate. We had been snowed in once before for a few days up there, and I remembered it fondly, but evidently Alex did not remember it that way. He was also worried that the new person caring for their dogs might not be able to get to them in a storm. He announced that they would be leaving with Yona as soon as Shabbat was over. We were relieved when they called to say that they had arrived home safely and that the snow had just begun falling in the Baltimore area.

As it turned out, the snow did not begin falling in the Poconos until Sunday evening. We had a great breakfast that morning at a restaurant called “Piggy’s,” which was a little disconcerting to Neri and the girls as the pig is not a favored animal in their life, but the breakfast itself was completely pig-free. The restaurant and adjoining gift shop are adorned with every type of pig memorabilia one could possibly imagine, as well as a few items that were unimaginable. Our intention was to take the girls to the ski school at Jack Frost, as none of the rest of us wanted to ski. When we arrived there, none of us, including the girls, could stand even the half-block walk to the window in the bitterly cold wind. We would have had to wait two hours for the four-hour afternoon session to begin, and it would have cost $175 per girl for equipment, lessons, and lift tickets. Instead, Ari, Neri, Saul and I took the girls to see the movie “Gulliver’s Travels” in 3D in a town called Moosic. The movie was really awful, even though I usually (sort of) like Jack Black movies. The theater and the new shopping and housing complex that surrounded it were really a nice surprise in such an out-of-the-way place. As the snow began to fall, we stopped into a Wal-Mart for additional food supplies, a snow shovel, salt, and to check out the bathing suit situation. No bathing suits. I picked up a fresh vegetarian pizza which we ate for dinner that night. That evening, after dinner, we spent a few hours teaching the girls and Neri how to play poker with the new chips Ari had purchased—seven card stud, which is what the family has always played. We all really enjoyed the evening.

On Monday, we realized that the big snowstorm was not going to materialize for us. In an unlikely turn of events, the really heavy storm hit hard in areas east of us, like New York City, and caused a record-breaking accumulation there. By Monday afternoon, undecided about what to do next, how to allocate our expenses, and what effect the weather might have on our plans, we thrashed out a strategy to visit Niagara Falls. I had been wanting to take the girls there for a few years, and we thought it would be a memorable locale for Neri, who, coincidentally, is old enough to drink and visit the casinos there. Online, Ari discovered an off-season deal for the Sheraton overlooking the falls in a complex of connected buildings that boast, among other delights, a three-acre indoor water park. No further snow was expected for a few days and we decided to book it on Monday afternoon for Tuesday and Wednesday after checking to make sure that Jessica could overnight the girls’ passports to somewhere where we could retrieve them. The plan coalesced beautifully. For $23, Jess overnighted the passports Monday afternoon to the Fed Ex office in Kenmore, New York, just over the border from Canada. Ari and I immediately set out for home where we picked up Saul’s and my passports, several of our bathing suits, water shoes, and cover ups. It was serendipitous that we returned home when we did as the temperature in the house when we arrived was in the fifties and dropping. Something had gone wrong with our heater. We contacted our trusty heating guys, Renaissance, and arranged to have Beth let them in to fix it the following day, which they did. Ari and I were back in the Poconos in time to have dinner and pack. The girls were really excited as I helped them pack their suitcase for the journey. We all arose at 4:00 a.m. on Tuesday, packed the car (we really had to squeeze in the luggage as we had opened the third bank of seats) and were on the road by 5:30 a.m. The girls and Neri slept for most of the journey and we stopped at a Cracker Barrel for breakfast around 9:30 a.m., having traveled the better part of the 5 to 6-hour journey.
Tracking the passports on our iPhones, we knew that the passports had arrived at their destination by 10:00 a.m. as promised. Ari never goes anywhere without his passport, and Neri had brought his along also. We arrived at the Sheraton at 11:30 a.m. and one of our two adjoining rooms directly overlooking the falls was already awaiting our early check-in. The one package deal we had purchased gave four of us use of the water park from 10 a.m. to 10 p.m. on Tuesday, and from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. on Wednesday. For an additional $20 per person, Ari and Neri were able to purchase the same admission as well. We changed into suits and the kids were on the water slides by 12:30. We settled into some lounge chairs on the quieter second level, showed the girls where to find us, warned them not to go out of the glass-enclosed space, asked them to check in with us from time-to-time, and let them go. There were many employees supervising the slides and pools for safety. Izzy climbed the three-stories-worth of stairs to the top of the water slides so many times that she complained hours later that her legs were aching. We were smugly satisfied that we had made the right decision about this vacation.

After showering and dressing, we headed off to a lavish buffet dinner, for which we had vouchers, in an elegant dining room overlooking the falls, which are lit at night with subtle, color-changing spotlights. We decided to have breakfast the next morning at the Rain Forest Café in the complex because there was a special, four-day opportunity to see Dora the Explorer and Diego. Rain Forest Café doesn’t ordinarily serve breakfast. The buffet breakfast was adequate and a bit pricey at $20, but it was a unique experience. On our way to the water park after breakfast, the girls posed with a giant Hershey’s Kiss character and decorated their own cookies at a Hershey’s-sponsored table. Our voucher’s that evening were $80 towards a very upscale, celebrity-chef-type restaurant which would not have been appropriate with two tired little girls. On the net, after an hour’s research, we located a well-liked, mid-priced, local restaurant, the Sandstone Grillhouse, only a few blocks away outside of the complex. We made reservations, bundled up, walked over, and had a lovely meal with friendly, attentive service and good local ambiance. Saul and Ari had the best, lightest gnocchi they had ever eaten, spinach gnocchi in a roasted red pepper chevre sauce, and they also shared a delicious pizza—caramelized onions, roasted garlic, goat cheese and mozzarella. I had the best fish and chips of my life—a whole, huge, flaky filet of haddock wrapped in a fluffy, crispy beer batter made with a premium Canadian beer, Alexander Keith’s, atop beautiful, crispy fries, and with a delicious, house-made tartar sauce and cole slaw. We shared a pitcher of Alexander Keith’s Pale Ale and the baked brie appetizer.

After we returned to the Fallsview complex, Ari and Neri used the vouchers we had received to take the girls to play arcade games and go on the indoor rides at the arcade, which would have been exorbitantly expensive without the vouchers, each ride costing about $7 per person. In the morning, we used vouchers for the hotel buffet breakfast in the beautiful room overlooking the falls. The breakfast was really a big hit and the girls were delighted to have omelets and waffles cooked to order for them. We loaded the car with our suitcases after breakfast, checked out with minimal delay, and headed about a mile down the road to the Horseshoe Falls for a tour. We opted to take the cheapest, shortest tour of the tunnels underneath the falls only, as we had a vague plan to tour the Corning Glass Museum on our way back if we had time. Izzy, who is usually intrepid, was a bit freaked out by the tunnels, especially the powerful roar of the cascading falls, so we did not spend a lot of time down there. Because of the frigid temperatures and ice, the lower outdoor viewing platform was not accessible, and Izzy was a bit disappointed by the fact that we did not get the raincoats about which I had told her. By noon, we were headed across the Rainbow Bridge back to the United States.

The official who had checked our passports on the way into Canada, had failed to mention that Neri would need a special paper document in his passport to return. When we handed over the passports on the way back, the official who reviewed them would not wait for Neri to retrieve the paper from his bag in the back of the car. Thus began an hour-and-a-half ordeal that was very educational, and a bit unpleasant for all of us. We were told to pull our car over to a parking spot and go up to the second floor of the immigration building. All of our passports were confiscated. We were told that we all needed to go upstairs even though only Neri’s passport was in question. Neri got the paper in question out of his bag when we got out of the car. When we got off of the elevator on the second floor, we found ourselves in a small waiting room, packed with a few dozen people of all ages and nationalities. After a brief time, we were able to find seats together on the hard metal benches. Names were being called and people were going through a door to meet with immigration officials. There was a small receptionist’s window to those offices with no receptionist. The girls, after Izzy initially showed great annoyance and asked a lot of questions, resigned themselves to the circumstances and we amused them as best we could with notepads, pens and crayons. No use of cell phones was allowed. As the time slowly passed, we started to get hungry, and I was sorry I had not thought to take our bag of drinks and snacks from the car. When our name was finally called, Ari went in with Neri and was out again in less than five minutes with our passports. The official was annoyed that he had had to take the time to check out Neri’s credentials when, clearly, we were in possession of the paper in question. He was annoyed at the other official who had pulled us out of line. The girls have added a new phrase to their vocabulary—“detained at the border.” Our encounter dashed our hopes of touring the Corning Museum, which closes at 5 p.m. We drove right past it on our way home at 4:40 p.m.

We allayed our hunger with snacks from our supplies in the car. We stopped to have dinner at a Red Lobster in Vestal, New York, but it was extremely crowded and we didn’t feel like waiting 40 minutes. A little further down the road, we happened upon a Chinese buffet that had sushi and we stopped for dinner. Saul questioned a woman going in with a child who said that they love to eat there. Unfortunately, it was a bad Chinese buffet. Luckily, none of us got sick.

Arriving back at our house in the Poconos on Thursday night, we all went to bed early in anticipation of the large amount of packing and cleaning that would be required the next morning. Originally, we had planned to stay in the Poconos for New Year’s Eve. Then, when Jess and Alex decided to stay home, we thought that we would celebrate back at home in the Philadelphia area and Ari and Neri would return the girls to Baltimore on Sunday after brunch. Then Neri heard that a group of his friends had arranged to be at a club in DC on New Year’s Eve. Ari got an invitation to watch Baltimore’s fireworks display from his friends Sam and Sarah’s home near the waterfront. Erica and Danny asked if they could use the Poconos house for New Year’s so that they could party with Danny’s nearby family. At the last minute, this is what we decided to do on New Year’s Eve: We packed our stuff in the morning, loaded the Pilot, and Saul left with Neri and the girls. Ari and I remained a little longer to finish cleaning the place, leaving shortly before Erica and Danny were due to arrive. About an hour before we reached the Baltimore area, we stopped for a late lunch/early dinner at yet another Cracker Barrel. Neri was amazed at the consistency of the chain which does not have a parallel in Israel. Saul then drove the girls home to Baltimore and waited for us. Ari, Neri, and I continued on to DC where Ari arranged tickets online for Neri to meet his friends at the club in DC. After resting for a while, around 8:30 p.m., Ari and I left for Baltimore where we all had a delicious Shabbat sushi dinner together prepared by Alex. Then, Ari left to join his friends for the fireworks and we watched t.v. waiting to ring in the new year. Izzy fell asleep shortly after dinner and was carried off to bed by Alex. Sami stayed awake, but we all were ready for bed after the ball dropped. Saul and I left immediately for DC. I was asleep by the time Ari returned, and at some point, he went out to pick up Neri, who had missed the last metro train of the evening.

In DC, we all did absolutely nothing on New Year’s day, sleeping late, eating leftovers from the Poconos and watching the movie “2012” which Ari had recorded on t.v. In the evening, we decided to meet Jessica at the Arundel Mills Egyptian Theater to see the most recent Harry Potter movie. Ari, Neri, Saul and I had a Mexican dinner at the nearby Chevy’s in the mall beforehand. I enjoyed the movie, although I had gone with trepidation after hearing about the graphic snake scene at the beginning. The description of the horror at the beginning of the book still haunts me, but, for a change, the scene itself was not as horrible to me as my own imagination. On Sunday, we went for dim sum at China Garden and, although we arrived at the right time, we were extremely disappointed with the selection. They had probably been mobbed the previous day and hadn’t had time to replenish their inventory. Back at Ari’s house, we began cleaning up, doing laundry, and packing up in preparation for our return home, the new work week for Ari, and Neri’s return flight to back to school. We didn’t feel like going out to dinner and Ari ordered in pizza from Papa John’s.

Ari left very early while we were still asleep on Monday morning to make sure that Neri had plenty of time to find his airplane at the large and confusing Dulles Airport. As it turned out, Neri called him several times from the airport for advice because his bags were five pounds overweight and he couldn’t stuff another thing into his carry on. I had forgotten about the weight restrictions two weeks earlier when I had bought him a shrink-wrapped double tower of solid white albacore tuna fish cans that he was craving at Costco. Ari advised him to lose the tuna, and reshuffle a few things into his carry on. He found an Ethiopian woman who was delighted beyond all reason to have the tower of tuna fish, and the check-in lady had pity on him and let him go through without charging him for the extra pound or two.

Saul and I had a number of things around the house that we wanted to help Ari finish before we headed for home, including installing dimmer switches in several places, breaking down large boxes and putting them out for the trash or storing them away in closets, cleaning up dead leaves on his outdoor plants, washing sheets and towels and remaking beds, finishing up the laundry, etc. etc. By the time we accomplished our to-do list and packed ourselves up to leave, it was almost time for Ari to return from work. We decided to have dinner together, stay one more night, and leave on Tuesday morning. We had dinner at Pho 14 in Columbia Heights. The next morning, Ari helped us with our suitcases before leaving for work, but was suffering from a cold which lasted several days. We had a really speedy ride home over I-95, which had very little traffic at the hours in which we were traveling. For a few days, I was overwhelmed with the amount of laundry that had piled up, including all the sheets and towels from all the beds and bathrooms at home, all the sheets and towels from all the beds and baths in the Poconos, and two weeks worth of our clothing. I finally got through it all after a few days and now we are about to embark on decision-making regarding renovations to our home. We have decided to wait at least another year before putting it on the market again, and, in the meantime, have begun discussing what and how we would like to update. Saul has decided to continue teaching until he is eligible for Medicare, which will be at least another year or two. Our grandchildren will be delighted that we have decided to stay for a while. They let us know, in no uncertain terms, how much they love our home and their summers here.